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About coaching

Personal coaches, sometime known as life coaches, are generally professionally trained mental health professionals, who, in many cases, have been successful in their own professional and private life. Besides their professional training, they've acquired specific abilities in guiding people to achieve their full potential and fulfill their goals.

As individuals seek greater fulfillment from their work, marriage, and overall life, the benefits of private coaching will continue to grow.  In the past, many people sought out psychotherapy for personal growth. Today, people may turn to personal coaches, whose focus is on growth and development in areas of one's life, in lieu of focusing on internal tension, anxiety and psychological conflict.

Some people are fortunate enough to have a significant individual to whom we would turn to for guidance and counseling.  This person could have been a revered uncle, a respected teacher, an associate of the clergy, or our Scoutmaster. We frequently refer to these people as mentors. We look to them for support in helping us fulfill part of ourselves.  We desire to develop an improved self, whether at school, work, or with loved ones. These mentors may help us in fulfilling our dreams and aspirations, and could become role models at the same time.

Coaching and mentoring have a good deal in common. A personal coach is like a professional mentor. The coach's role is more clearly identified. The coach has does not have any other relationship to the client than that of a coach. Thus, there is absolutely no hidden agenda or conflict of interest. Frequently, we seek a coach to assist us in achieving balance in our own lives.  Personal coaches believe that when all aspects of one's life are in harmony, a synergy is formed that may propel a person forwards to reach greatness.

When we turn to a personal coach, we want to become better at whatever it is that we're focused on.  We should actualize our potential. We understand that we have the potential, we are aware that our company can grow or that our life may be better balanced, but we have trouble in creating a plan of action, which will help us achieve our vision for the future. Something is blocking us, and we need help removing it. We need another set of eyes. We need a boost.

Professional coaches begin with where you are.

They work along with you, as a collaborator that will help you realize your goals. Often they enable you to clarify and define your goals. Once your goals are articulated, then they work with you to develop a plan of action for attaining those goals. Then they work together with you to truly develop a plan of action for attaining those goals, once your goals are articulated. In personal coaching, the coach not only enables the client to develop a plan of action to reach a desired set of goals, the coach also remains together with the client to implement these goals. Having an advisor, you purchase an expert's advice and opinion and guidance. A coach can help you explore alternatives. A personal coach will help you in finding options that meet your goals, as opposed to tell how to proceed. A coach will empower you to find the solutions to your inquiries and develop a strategy for your life, which is consistent, along with your principles and beliefs and values. Generally, coaching goes beyond consulting to include all areas of your daily life.

Coaching isn't therapy. Personal coaches do not work on "issues" or delve in the past. Nor do they deal much with understanding human behavior. Coaches do not focus on solving previous traumas which influence character development nor do they attempt to alter personality structures. Coaches do not attempt to ameliorate psychic pain, anxiety, depression, or sexual dysfunction. All these are issues which can be dealt with in psychotherapy.

A personal coach focuses on:

     •     Helping clients set better goals.

     •     Assisting clients to achieve more than they would on their own.

     •     Helping their clients to concentrate better in order to product results faster.

     •     Supplying clients with all the tools, support, and structure to accomplish more.

While psychotherapy focuses on the past and present, coaching focuses on the present and future. The personal coach keeps a focus on the goals that the client decides she/he wants to attain. This collaborative attempt propels the individual. The individual is propelled by this effort to constantly move toward their goal. In psychotherapy, the assumption is that there is something wrong that gets in the way of an individual's functioning that needs fixing. In coaching, the assumption that there's nothing wrong with the client, but the client desires an even better life. In psychotherapy the primary focus is on the client’s internal world. In coaching, the focus is on the client's entire life, including health, relationships, career, spirituality, etc., and how it all fits together.

Personal coaches help people develop a balanced life. They do that through strengthening their client's personal foundation. Part of one's personal foundation is understanding, clarifying and comprehending one's core values. A coach can help you investigate your values and assist in developing a set of goals and actions that coincides with this value system, so that you feel in sync with yourself.

Coaches have no agenda but that of the clients. It's one of the few relationships where the client's agenda is the sole agenda that matters. Personal coaches want to help you in actualizing your plan on your own terms. The aim of the coach is to open new possibilities. The focus in coaching is entirely on you and your agenda.

How Does Coaching Work?

Similar to psychotherapy, coaching works best when you can find regular appointments. In order to be able to maintain focus and honor commitments, continuity is essential. Nevertheless, coaching is not restricted to face-to-face meetings.  Actually, most personal coaching occurs over the phone. Coaching is not restricted to geographic location. You can be coached from just about any location. Coaching sessions are typically thirty minutes in length with three or four sessions scheduled per month.

There are several variables that lead to the effectiveness of coaching:

1. Better goals are set, ones that naturally impel you forwards.

2. Synergy between the coach and client creates momentum.

3. Accountability. Understanding that you have to report to somebody on improvement or completion of an assignment impels you to finish.

4. Time limits and deadlines help to mitigate procrastination.

5. Prioritizing tasks with your coach makes it more likely that the tasks will be executed.

6. Tasks are set into manageable pieces to avoid feeling overwhelmed with the enormity of the endeavor.

7. It is possible to borrow your coach’s belief in you, until you develop a belief in yourself.

8. You have a partner in your coach; working with someone constantly feels more empowering than working alone.

9. You develop new skills.

10. When you have a coach, you tend to take yourself more seriously.

11. You take more effective and focused actions immediately.

12. You stop putting up with what is holding you back.

13. You set better goals that are more in accord with what you want out of life.

 

Thomas Leonard, founder of Coach University, says that coaching is has become so popular for many reasons:"Many people are tired of doing what they think they "should" do and are disposed to do something unique and meaningful for the rest of their lives. One issue is that many cannot see what this is or, if they can, they can't find a ways to reorient their life around it. A coach can help them do both”.